Just Dumb

Why are women so stupid in the world of "love" sometimes? I'm so torn. Between the last two "Strawberry Letters" on the Steve Harvey Morning Show, and my friend with her drama filled "relationship" I just can't understand why women hate themselves so much, all for the sake of keeping/having a man.

Maybe it's just me, or maybe it's the fact that I was raised by a powerful, independent woman but why are women willing to let go of their morals, their values, their spirit just to keep a man? Here are some examples:

• A woman who emphasized the fact that she is a "God fearing, Christian woman" at age 27 was given an ultimatum by a 3? year old man with four children, by four different women to either marry him by June so he can become a US citizen or he'll pay another woman to marry him. She didn't know what to do because she was scared that he might leave her once he married the other woman!
• A woman and Her boyfriend make plans for Valentines day. They both mutually agreed that she would break one thing specific from her daily routine that otherwise would take away their quality time, and he'd do the same. He then completely reneges on his portion of the promise, they argue, and he leaves and spends the rest of the evening with his friend. Only to bring back to their home this same friend (who by the way they both mutual agreed wasn't allowed in their house any longer) .
• A married woman is having an affair with a married man. Has a child for this man. The man says "he feels guilty about their affair" (although he's already admitted to not wanting to be with his wife any longer) and no longer wants anything to do with her (doesn't even know that that's his baby). Now this married woman is trying to decide what she can do to keep her lover and have him leave his wife AND MARRY HER.

These women (among others who have equally sad stories) give claim to these men robbing them of their self esteem (and I will admit that after having been verbally abused in past relationships to having felt this way), but as Katt Williams said: It's called SELF esteem. It's ESTEEM of your mutha f*ckin self. How the f*ck did I f*ck up how YOU FEEL ABOUT YOU? And you know what ladies, he's absolutely right. You allow these men to disrespect you. They only do what you allow them to get away with. So if you feel you're not worth more than this man cheating on you, or giving you ultimatums, or yelling at you like you're some child, or telling you how to dress/act/think, or disrespecting you then that's how he'll treat you.

Come on women - live up to your names. You come from the womb of a man. You were created to bring true life to a man. Without YOU, HE IS NOTHING, and might as well be dead! It shouldn't be the other way around. Stop being so dumb!